Do you know what really makes you happy? "Happiness seems less a matter of getting what you want than of how you feel about what you have." says David G. Myers PhD, Professor of Psychology at Hope College in Holland Michigan. David Lykken, a psychologist and Professor Emeritus at University of Minnesota says his research shows that each of us has a happiness set point determined by our genes. You can't change the set point much but you can do some things that allow you to bounce above that happiness level. What is really amazing is that the research shows that the things that we think would make us happier like money, physical beauty, and social prominence do not matter.* It's other things that cause that little bounce! So what gives you that bounce and why is it important?
So what are some strategies that make you happy? For some of it might be just the smell of an apple pie in the oven — or the taste of it in your mouth! Others might look to an accomplishment to make them happy. For an author perhaps it is finally finishing a book, for a mountain climber it may be reaching the peak, and for a bird watcher see that special bird he/she has been watching for. Still others may find happiness in the world of nature - a spectacular sunset, a beautiful bird, the calming effect of the ocean or a lake.
What are some ways to get to really know yourself? One way that has worked for me is journaling. Each morning I get up and write 3 pages in my journal. The idea comes from the book, "The Artists Way" by Julia Cameron. She suggests you write whatever in stream of consciousness every morning. Another idea is to just spend time by yourself for quiet reflection. For others it may be by being with friends. Sometimes a good friend can help us to see the joyful aspects of our own lives better than we can ourselves.
Putting yourself first can help you to identify ways that make you feel happy. The next step is to be open to really appreciating the opportunities to feel good during the day. Laughter is a great way to release tension. Finding the humor in a situation can in fact add more happiness to our own lives and that of those around us. If you focus on the present and really appreciate what is going on around you, you may in fact find some things that will make you happy that you might have missed in the past. Appreciating the small pleasures in life can go a long way in increasing your happiness quotient.
Take Action:Sometimes you need to remember what happiness feels like. Try some of these ideas for a reminder:
1. Put on a happy face and walk confidently with long strides and arms swinging and eyes straight ahead.
2. Spend time with happy people.
3. Daydream about a time and place that you felt completely happy.
4. Close the door and the windows, put on your favorite music and sing as loud as you can. (Often this works best if you have a toy microphone or a real one!)
5. Create your own idea here and let me know what it is.
So what are some strategies that make you happy? For some of it might be just the smell of an apple pie in the oven — or the taste of it in your mouth! Others might look to an accomplishment to make them happy. For an author perhaps it is finally finishing a book, for a mountain climber it may be reaching the peak, and for a bird watcher see that special bird he/she has been watching for. Still others may find happiness in the world of nature - a spectacular sunset, a beautiful bird, the calming effect of the ocean or a lake.
What are some ways to get to really know yourself? One way that has worked for me is journaling. Each morning I get up and write 3 pages in my journal. The idea comes from the book, "The Artists Way" by Julia Cameron. She suggests you write whatever in stream of consciousness every morning. Another idea is to just spend time by yourself for quiet reflection. For others it may be by being with friends. Sometimes a good friend can help us to see the joyful aspects of our own lives better than we can ourselves.
Putting yourself first can help you to identify ways that make you feel happy. The next step is to be open to really appreciating the opportunities to feel good during the day. Laughter is a great way to release tension. Finding the humor in a situation can in fact add more happiness to our own lives and that of those around us. If you focus on the present and really appreciate what is going on around you, you may in fact find some things that will make you happy that you might have missed in the past. Appreciating the small pleasures in life can go a long way in increasing your happiness quotient.
Take Action:Sometimes you need to remember what happiness feels like. Try some of these ideas for a reminder:
1. Put on a happy face and walk confidently with long strides and arms swinging and eyes straight ahead.
2. Spend time with happy people.
3. Daydream about a time and place that you felt completely happy.
4. Close the door and the windows, put on your favorite music and sing as loud as you can. (Often this works best if you have a toy microphone or a real one!)
5. Create your own idea here and let me know what it is.
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